Phew… that was stressful

It’s so easy to forget, during times of extremes, that operating as we usually do can feel almost impossible. Whether it’s extreme heat, high workloads, lack of sleep, hormonal changes, exams, parenting demands, world events, or personal crises — the list is endless — these moments place real strain on our minds and bodies.

When life feels like this, it can be hard to live up to the standards and values we usually hold ourselves to. This mismatch often feels uncomfortable or conflicting, leading us to become snappy or tearful with those around us. Sometimes there’s an underlying cry of, “Can’t you see I’m struggling here?”

Often, it’s only once the stress has eased that we can look back and recognise what was really going on for us.

Talking about how you’re feeling — whether with a friend, partner, or counsellor — can help shine a light on these situations sooner. Perhaps a friend notices you’re still sticking rigidly to your running schedule despite the heat, and checks in to ask how you’re really doing. What might it mean to pause, adapt, or take a break?

We humans are creatures of habit. We seek continuity and familiarity, even when circumstances change around us. But times of stress and discomfort can actually be useful moments to check in: Are my choices still working for me right now?

Therapy can be a great place to explore these questions, with the support of someone neutral and compassionate by your side.

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